Tiffany Gilly:
Interesting thought: Can Men and Women just be friends? (Note: not talking about Boys or Girls) What do you think? I have my own thoughts, but what do you think?
Me:
It's natural for the manatee to turn into a mermaid in many cases, but for people with an ounce of self-control (a lost art) not all is lost in the realm of opposite sex friendships. I have great friendships with females, I just am very very careful about them.
Specifically, I keep four factors in moderation:
1. The amount of time I spend with them, particularly alone.
2. The amount (if any) and type of touch that happens. (Innocent physicality brings out instincts no matter how evolved we are feeling.)
3. The amount of investment I put into that person. (I will not put the weight of all my burdens on one female friend.)
4. The level of content I put in. (I moderate how much highly emotional or serious matter I have within the friendship.)
Now personally, and this differs from person to person, but I find time, touch, investment, and content easier with women than with men, so a good deal of my good friends are female. It just means I have to pay a lot of attention to how much I am doing it. It's worked well for me, and so I've been able to easily remove any temptations that have come by.
It also helps to be in a healthy, committed relationship. When you are happy with your significant other, its easy for others to not become as significant!
(I wrote all this, saw it's blog potential, and was too lazy to turn it into a real blog post, but all none of you reading this will forgive me, I'm sure. So sure, that I'm not even going to use an end parathesis.
Interesting thought: Can Men and Women just be friends? (Note: not talking about Boys or Girls) What do you think? I have my own thoughts, but what do you think?
Me:
I totally believe its possible, but it takes care by both parties. Honesty is the most important ingredient.
It's natural for the manatee to turn into a mermaid in many cases, but for people with an ounce of self-control (a lost art) not all is lost in the realm of opposite sex friendships. I have great friendships with females, I just am very very careful about them.
Specifically, I keep four factors in moderation:
1. The amount of time I spend with them, particularly alone.
2. The amount (if any) and type of touch that happens. (Innocent physicality brings out instincts no matter how evolved we are feeling.)
3. The amount of investment I put into that person. (I will not put the weight of all my burdens on one female friend.)
4. The level of content I put in. (I moderate how much highly emotional or serious matter I have within the friendship.)
Now personally, and this differs from person to person, but I find time, touch, investment, and content easier with women than with men, so a good deal of my good friends are female. It just means I have to pay a lot of attention to how much I am doing it. It's worked well for me, and so I've been able to easily remove any temptations that have come by.
It also helps to be in a healthy, committed relationship. When you are happy with your significant other, its easy for others to not become as significant!
(I wrote all this, saw it's blog potential, and was too lazy to turn it into a real blog post, but all none of you reading this will forgive me, I'm sure. So sure, that I'm not even going to use an end parathesis.
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